The proper man
Question: How can I be a proper man?
Question: How can I become psychologically balanced?
The proper man is that who is in harmony with himself and with people around him, he satisfies his own needs on condition that he doesn’t affect others, and he keeps all the rights of people around him, his parents, his wife, his kids, his relatives, his neighbors, his colleagues and the people in the society the way they like and accepted by customs, society and Sharia, and he is tolerance about his own rights upon them, if one of them keeps his duty towards him, he is grateful to him, and whoever doesn’t keep his rights, he always find him an excuse and he never deserts him or disputes with him or stops his supply or benefaction for him. A wise man said about this: (Treat people in a way that if you are alive they long for you and if you die they grieve after you.)
A proper man also equalizes his worldly desires and wishes and he gets them in legal ways accepted by Sharia, he never gets completely occupied by them in a way that makes him forgetful to get ready to the permanent life in the hereafter after his death. He neither deprives himself from this life nor forgets to do good deeds that make him happy in the hereafter. He is not introvert or isolated from society or over socialized in a way that makes him not keeping his or other people’s duties. Islam sets the right way for that as God says:
Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and has Faith, verily, to him will We give a new Life, a life that is good and pure and We will bestow on such their reward according to the best of their actions.”
Surat An’nahl, Verse 97.
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